Last Updated on April 13, 2017 by Marie Bautista
I bet you mommies are familiar with this. You did your homework, you have searched and
researched to find the best daycare center here for your toddler, but you did
not expect that she will go to pieces when you leave her there that you simply
dread saying goodbye and leaving her there.
researched to find the best daycare center here for your toddler, but you did
not expect that she will go to pieces when you leave her there that you simply
dread saying goodbye and leaving her there.
Your toddler may seem much older than she did a few months
ago. In fact, she seemed to be more
independent which made you decide you can leave her at the Day Care. She seemed to like the idea of playing and
doing fun activities with the other children.
Why then does she make a scene when you drop her off?
ago. In fact, she seemed to be more
independent which made you decide you can leave her at the Day Care. She seemed to like the idea of playing and
doing fun activities with the other children.
Why then does she make a scene when you drop her off?
First off, if she seems happy when you pick her up and the
teacher insists that she is having fun with the program, then she must be
really having a good time at the day care.
She may be more afraid of being deserted by you or she may be fearful
that you are leaving her alone.
teacher insists that she is having fun with the program, then she must be
really having a good time at the day care.
She may be more afraid of being deserted by you or she may be fearful
that you are leaving her alone.
Once she becomes older, you may not experience those
separation meltdowns, but until then, you can do the following to minimize the
misery you both feel during drop – offs:
separation meltdowns, but until then, you can do the following to minimize the
misery you both feel during drop – offs:
Allow her to bring a security object.
I used to give my daughter a tiny teddy bear, and tell her
that I am leaving my heart on the bear as I gesture to get my heart and put it
on the teddy. That way, whenever she
misses me, she can always hug her teddy bear.
If the school does not allow her to bring such objects, you can give her
a photo of your family in her bag or a locket that can remind her of you.
that I am leaving my heart on the bear as I gesture to get my heart and put it
on the teddy. That way, whenever she
misses me, she can always hug her teddy bear.
If the school does not allow her to bring such objects, you can give her
a photo of your family in her bag or a locket that can remind her of you.
Don’t talk about leaving her in the Day Care.
Moms do worry. A
lot. In fact, you may be spilling all
your separation worries on her. Don’t
even mention about leaving her and telling her not to cry. You may upset her even more. Talk about what she will be doing in day care
– as long as it does not upset her – or what you can do together once you pick
her up.
lot. In fact, you may be spilling all
your separation worries on her. Don’t
even mention about leaving her and telling her not to cry. You may upset her even more. Talk about what she will be doing in day care
– as long as it does not upset her – or what you can do together once you pick
her up.
Don’t call her a baby.
Don’t get angry at your child when she starts to go to
pieces. You don’t need to humiliate her
or call her a “baby” because she is already feeling miserable. Tell her it is okay to feel scared, and
remind her that she did have fun a day ago in Day Care.
pieces. You don’t need to humiliate her
or call her a “baby” because she is already feeling miserable. Tell her it is okay to feel scared, and
remind her that she did have fun a day ago in Day Care.
Pick her up on time.
When I mean on time, not a few minutes later which can seem
like an eternity for your toddler, especially when her classmates have already
been picked up. She would feel like she
cannot even count on you to pick her up on time. 
like an eternity for your toddler, especially when her classmates have already
been picked up. She would feel like she
cannot even count on you to pick her up on time.
Such a cute little chef! It is beneficial when you train your kids such a young age. MY eight year old cooks breakfast for us every weekend now.
I remember that I hated waiting for my sundo when I was in grade school, so fetching on time is really a must! Thanks for the tips.
Thank Sis Marie for this. Matt will start school this June so I badly need these tips. Advantage lang that our house is so near his soon to be school. Happy New Year!
Mommy Maye
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What great tips! These will surely come in handy if ever Yuri goes to school. In the meanwhile, we're going for homeschooling, but we'll see!
Great tips mommy! thanks for sharing… 🙂
I need this tips, my daughter will gonna start school this year and I'm sure I'll be dealing with this separation anxiety soon. Thanks, Marie:)
I remember I sent my step cousin school and she just cried the whole time.If I only have read your post before, it would really help me.
The teddy bear idea is so adorable. My son isn't going to school yet. Maybe in a year or two pa but these tips could really come in handy. I will surely keep these in mind. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
I have seen some cases where the toddler adjusted immediately and the parents are the ones experiencing so much anxiety. hehe
Learn to guide the children through proper training which they can perform by themselves. Although some toddlers are really hard to get the instructions, don't get angry or back it down, instead find an alternative solution.
thanks for the tips! while i don't have a child yet i'm definitely going to need this someday =)
Slowly allow them some freedom to meet people while still being on the look out for the first few days.
I taught my kids at home till their pre school days but when they started kindergarten, I was the one with separation anxiety, not them! Wahhhh
I missed my daughter's prep and KG days because I was not there. I know, those are the times I could never get back and wish I hadn't left for my career. It wasn't a wise decision then but thinking of it now, the career I've made here is what's giving her all the comfort she deserves.
It's nice to know all these tips. I wish, I was able to practise them at all.