Last Updated on April 13, 2017 by Marie Bautista
I first enrolled my daughter in pre-school when she was just three and a half years old. I was so excited! And she was, too! She always did things early. She started walking when she was ten months old. She had an extensive vocabulary and was talking really well before she turned two. She warms up to other children easily…
I bought her new black school shoes, a new bag, her first-ever school uniform. She breezed through school happily, too.
I had a friend who had a son my daughter’s age. The same scene. The mom (my friend) was so excited, she bought new stuff. But instead of hopping happily into the classroom like my daughter, her little boy clung to her leg and screamed until she finally brought her little boy home. He just wasn’t ready for school yet.
|Learning through the Dalcroze method|
- Children must believe and be re-assured that someone is always there to look out, care and watch over them. They thrive on love, your attention, loving hugs and encouragement. Children who feel and are loved are more loving, confident children.
- Lead and your child will follow. Children are great imitators and would mirror practically everything you say or do. If you treat people graciously and respect them, your child probably will, too. If you share things, your child will love sharing, too. If you always scream, curse and do offensive things, your child probably would imitate you, too.
- We have grown up practically hating school. Seriously. But parents, don’t lead on that you do (shh, it is our secret). Children love to learn, discover things, go around and explore. Encourage this. Allow them to crawl in the mud, write on walls. Don’t restrict them for fear that they will hurt themselves or catch germs or something. Praise them! Talk about school and how fun it will be. Describe how school is and how much he will learn new things and meet new people.
- Practice makes perfect. We have been learning ever since we were born through practice. Before we walked, we practiced by crawling. Everything was learned through practice and repetition. Encouraging a child to try and try and practice will build his confidence and he will always thirst to do something new.
- Set limits. Children need firm but loving discipline.
- Prepare your children’s activities. Be sure they are enjoying them, though. Do not try to make too many restrictions or dominate them.
- Don’t vent your anger on your child.
- Give reasons on why you are angry to your child. My boy used to say “Mama, you don’t love me?” whenever I scold him for a misbehavior. My answer is “I love you. So much. But it is not okay for you to exceed the time I gave you to play on your XBox.”
- Let your children work out problems for themselves. Let them choose, instead of making decisions for them.
- Let your child be independent and develop their self-confidence by allowing them to do things like dressing themselves (even if their clothes’ colors would clash) children try tasks by themselves.