Last Updated on April 13, 2017 by Marie Bautista
It is because I can’t get over the thought that my two sugar-and-spice-and-everything-nice little girls are now full-fledged teens.
I was walking with my 16-year old downtown a couple of days ago and when I hooked my arm on her arm, I had an epiphany.
My baby, the once-tiny girl who would never let go of my hand, is now taller than me.
And she is now babbling about, nope, not the latest “My Scene” dolls (which she had to buy when she was little. She even had a Lindsay Lohan “My Scene” doll, back when Lindsay was the kind of girl little girls would look up to), but what she wants for her future. How she wants to finish college and work in Canada. How she wants to take me to Europe someday. How she wants to meet the perfect guy. How she and her friends would like to go so bad to that fortune teller at Burnham Park so she would have a glimpse of her future. She was looking at her future in rose tinted shades.
And it was refreshing.
But, hey, hold on. She was my baby. She was the girl everyone doted on. The first “apo”* Her moments were documented with loads of pictures and lots of videos-which reminds me that I have to find bulk cd duplication to make copies of her Hi-8 video tapes when she was little.
And it made me scared bad enough to give her a heart reality check.
I told her:
- Don’t expect your love story to mirror that of fictional characters in romance movies. In real life, you don’t have fireworks and pouring rain on cue, a two-hour buildup to a dramatic chase scene, or background violin music to accompany your very first kiss.
- Different guys like different types of girls. Don’t feel bad if your basketball star crush only has eyes for the cheerleading gals. Find someone who will appreciate you for who you are.
- Break up with your boyfriend immediately if:
- Despite the male species’ fascination with rescuing damsels in distress, boys admire girls who can take care of themselves. The best relationships are formed when you don’t actually need to be with each other-but you want to.
- Don’t judge boys with player reps if you don’t have proof. In the same way sensitive guys are unfairly branded gay, the attractive ones are often assumed as skirt-chasers. Get to know him first before writing him off.
- If you find yourself falling for someone who already has a girlfriend, ask yourself this: If he ditches her to be with you, what’s going to stop him from cheating on you further down the road?
- Learn to separate liking a guy from liking attention. Don’t lead him on just because you enjoy being showered with presents, acts of chivalry, and mushy text messages.
- And lastly, I am hoping soo bad you will go into serious relationships only when you turn thirty!