Last Updated on February 19, 2023 by Marie Bautista
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“My worst nightmare ever! My mom is online!”
Teens love testing their independence and this is the stage where getting online with the parents are considered uncool.
Situation No. 1 : “My mom is adding me on Facebook. Should I accept her invite?”
How to deal with it: Yes, you should! Letting your parents know that you have an online account and accepting their invite gives you and your parents another thing to talk about and bond over. Who knows, maybe you’ll find out something cool about your mom too!
Sticky Situation No. 2: “My mom and I are now Facebook friends, and now she’s friending my friends as well! This is totally not cool. What can I do?”
How to deal with it: You might feel that your mom is invading your privacy by “friending” your friends but your mom might just want to know more about what’s going on in your life-and your friends’ lives too-so she can help you out more when you need it. She might not realize that you think it’s uncool, so tell her how you feel and ask her why she wants to be friends with your friends too. Then compromise-maybe she can send friend requests to your best friends, but not your whole class. This way, your mom won’t feel suspicious that you’re trying to hide something from her, and you and your friends won’t feel that your mom is invading your privacy-or “liking” status messages from your class frenemy.
Sticky Situation No. 3: My parents are viewing my blog! Are they spying on me?
How to deal with it: Remember that even if there are privacy settings that you can fix yourself (for example, you can make posts about your crush to be seen only by you and your best friend), your online profiles-the pages where your photo, name, and location can be seen-are still available to everybody in your network. Also, you can’t control who among your friends can repost your pictures (and not apply the same privacy settings you did). If you think that you and your friends are being spied on, try to be more open with your parents by sharing the things you and your friends like to do (and encourage your friends to do the same thing too with their parents!) and show them your pictures yourself so they won’t have to check out your pictures without you knowing. You parents are probably just curious, not suspicious.
Sticky Situation No.4: “My mom scolds me and calls me corny family nicknames on her Twitter!”
How to deal with it: If being scolded online make you feel embarrassed, or if your friends start teasing you because of your parents’ posts, talk to your parents to let them know. Reassure them that you’d still like to be their “little sweetheart”-but only at home. Try spending more time bonding with your parents when you’re at home. If you’re online all the time, can you blame them if they feel that’s the only place they can talk to you, even about private things?
Sticky Situation No. 5: “My mom’s going through my profile and telling me to take out information like our address and phone number. Why? Only my friends can see it anyway, right?
How to deal with it: Social networking sites, such as Facebook and Twitter, request for some personal information, like your full name and address, but you don’t have to give them your full address, down to the street and the number of your house. Your personal info might be made available to other people who could just be pretending to be your friend, such as stalkers and bullies. Instead, put a general location like your city or town. Also, be cautious whenever somebody you don’t know sends you a friend request. Tell your parents at once when strangers try to add you, and keep strangers from accessing your profile (this is where you should use the “block user” button). It’s not that your parents are trying to stop you from enjoying your time online or telling you what you do. They just want to protect you from the bad people lurking around on the internet so you can have safe fun when you’re online.